Accomplishing Real Change

Accomplishing Real Change

Get real with yourself about your life and everybody in it. Be truthful about what isn’t working in your life. Stop making excuse and start making results.
If you’re unwilling to acknowledge a thought, circumstance, problem, condition, behavior, or emotion – if you won’t take ownership of your role in a situation – then you cannot and will not change it. If you refuse to acknowledge your own self-destructive behaviors, not only will they continue, they will actually gain momentum, become more deeply entrenched in the habitual patterns of your life, and grow more and more resistant to change.
If you hope to have a winning life strategy, you have to be honest about where your life is right now. The connection between knowing exactly, precisely where you are in your life right now and where you want your life to be should be obvious.
You must be keenly aware that you can lie to yourself in two ways: You can affirmatively misrepresent the truth, or you can lie to yourself by omission. Failing to tell yourself what is, is just as dangerous as misrepresenting what is. So you have to have strength and courage to ask yourself the hard questions, and to give yourself realistic answers.
You must acknowledge that you have to gain knowledge if you want the power to change. You must acknowledge that you are getting some kind of payoff for living with what you don’t want, and you must be willing honestly to acknowledge and label whatever personal characteristics are keeping you from success.